Anxiety and self-doubt are major mood killers, so try to be optimistic. Approaching sex with confidence, self respect, and a positive attitude can make all the difference for both you and your partner. Referring to yourself by name can be more effective when practicing positive self-talk. Work on lasting longer during masturbation. Trying to reach climax as quickly as possible during masturbation can train your body to expect a quick finish. Masturbating a few times a week and a couple hours before sex can help delay climax, especially if you practice lasting longer when you masturbate.
Exercising the muscles that control ejaculation can help you last longer. To identify these muscles, stop urination midstream and tighten the muscles that prevent passing gas. To exercise them, tighten them for 3 seconds, relax for 3 seconds, then repeat 5 to 10 times. Try to only tighten those muscles that help control urination and passing gas. Don’t just flex your buttocks or thighs.